Self care! well that's definitely easier to talk about than implement, no one knows that better than me. I know it might seem like I'm all for the self care and of course I am but I very rarely take my own advice. To say I neglected pretty much all my needs for the last few years would be putting it mildly, not only did I neglect myself but I purposely sabotaged myself too. Now I won't go into all that on this blog post but maybe I will in the future. Right now I want to give you some tips that myself and Jamie from the @thehappyperiodbox talked about on our live last Friday.
The first thing that I think is possibly THE most important is to take the pressure off! You are most definitely suppose to love and enjoy your life too, not just make sure everyone else can. So when you feel the stress or the overwhelm creeping in I want you to follow these few steps.
1. take a deep breath in for 4 seconds through your nose
2. breath out through your mouth for 6 seconds
3. say to yourself " I am doing the best I can in this moment and that is enough, I don't have to be perfect"
If you can say it out loud even a whisper that is amazing! if not then make a conscious effort to actively think it repeatedly and remember the more we think, say or hear something the more we believe it so do this as many times a day as you can it's definitely a case of the more the merrier.
Next step is to make your self care fit around your life rather than trying to make space for it, self care isn't a luxury it's a necessity and needs to become a habit, we form habits from regularly doing the same things over and over again until we do it without even realising it. Learning to look after yourself is an important skill and in the future carving out special time for you is definitely needed but little steps make a big difference, you don't always have to make massive changes or go big to get amazing results.
Jamie knew she wasn't drinking enough water so she started keeping a bottle of water next to the kettle every time she boiled the kettle she drank the water while she waited. She now is in the habit and does it without thinking, she hasn't had to give up tea and coffee but she feels so much better for drinking twice as much water.
I needed to build up my fitness and add some regular exercise into my day, so I started walking the kids to school and back, its only a 15 minute walk (with them 10 without ) but doing that twice a day means I'm going for a 50 minute walk everyday without taking on anything extra.
Meditation is something I really found hard but has really made a difference to me, again I don't have any extra time so I started to think about how I could easily add it into my life so I could learn how to meditate (because it is tricky to start with) I decided to find a guided meditation some good places to start are Spotify, head space or even YouTube. Find something that works for you that you enjoy listening to, then go to bed 10 minutes earlier than usual, once you are settled in bed listen to the meditation. This isn't intruding much on your day and it is a good way to start, when you are more comfortable with meditating (it might be weird at first it was for me I remember thinking, what is deep breaths and nice music gonna do but stick with it and do what works for you) you can then start adding it into more areas of your life, for example I absolutely love meditating whilst I soak in the bath, or even during the shower using visualisation and affirmations.
I will talk about that some more in another blog but I don't wat to throw too much at you at once, the most important thing is don't overwhelm yourself pick one of the things I mentioned above and do that until it feels like a habit, when you no longer have to think about it pick one of the other tips to try, please be kind to yourself and don't worry about "getting it wrong" your self care is whatever works for you, so you simply cannot go wrong because you decide you are 100% in control.
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